It’s officially “Hey, put on your coat!” season in our house. Some people call it winter. However, this huge fact doesn’t seem to faze my son, who refuses to wear a coat! It's an insane issue that affects anyone with kids. It all begins with four dreaded words: "Nobody wears coats anymore."
Why won't teenagers wear a winter coat? Here's the logic behind not wearing a coat, hat or gloves when it's below zero or even hovering at a balmy 32°:
- I have to carry it around with me all day because I don't use my locker.
- My coat is too bulky.
- We cannot wear hats in school. It's against the rules.
- It messes up my look. (my daughter's fav)
- No one else wears a coat.
The last point is the REAL reason. "No one else wears a coat, and heaven forbid I stand out. I'm willing to get frostbite and be incredibly cold as I walk outdoors between buildings for classes, but I MUST be like everyone else." It seems that if everyone else is brilliant enough not to wear a winter coat when the temperature plummets my son must follow suit too. I do wonder though what happens if a teenage boy actually wears his coat to school . . . is he ridiculed, laughed at, given dirty looks? Sometimes, I say to myself perhaps not wearing a coat is making my son more rugged. And, then I think ‘Nah, it’s just stupid.’
So, one day thinking I had an instant solution to this ongoing issue I said to him "Here's a thought...why don't you wear your varsity jacket?" You know the one you couldn't WAIT to get when you were a HS freshman. The jacket you raved about getting in just ONE MORE YEAR when you were a sophomore. The jacket now that you have it, won't wear it because I don't know why..." He says "I don't wear it because I'll have to carry it around all day." When I tell him to put it in his locker, he retorts "That will take too long! I'll have to walk WAAYYY to the other-side of the building, which will make me late for class." Um...what about during lunch or study hall? Then I'll miss my friends! I ask "Are you ever going to wear it?" His response "Mom I'll wear it in my Senior year...it will be BOSS then!" This child of mine needs to be a LAWYER for every kid across America not wanting to wear a coat!!! LOL!
Well, one day his varsity jacket will make for a nice shadow box keepsake at least. These days he likes to wear puffy down vests with long sleeve shirts. It looks like he's wearing a coat, and has the ability to show off his look. He says the cold doesn’t bother him. ...And, I never considered red ears or frostbite to be fashion statements, but then maybe I’m just another clueless mom. Until next time...peace & blessings♥
How many parents have/are going through this?